Sunday, November 4, 2012

Next to Nothing

I don't often blog about a play that I have seen but Next to Nothing was the most incredible theater I have ever seen. It will stay with me forever and I guess you might say it has been with me forever. It is the story of what happens to a family when there is unresolved grief. So it's about topics very close to my heart: families, grief, loss and a little bit of dysfunction.

Unfortunately, the downside of my chosen career as a perinatal nurse is dealing with the times that aren't so happy. Miscarriage, fetal demise, chromosomal abnormalities, birth defects, SIDS and the list goes on. I have witnessed scores of wonderful folks, making new families who must shift gears and come to terms with life as it shouldn't be. Couples and their extended families who are forced to put life on hold to appropriately deal with grief and loss so that life can go on. Because it must. Maybe not the way they planned. Maybe not the way they hoped. Just the way it is.

And the hard task of going through the necessary steps involved in recognizing and coping with loss and grief is long and lonely. Every person must grieve in their own way, in their own time and often without any support even from the people closest to them. Because essentially, no one can climb into your heart and head and see and feel what you do. But grieve we must. The consequences of not grieving prevent life from continuing for ourselves, our families and all our close and cherished community.

So I just needed to acknowledge all those incredible people that I have met along the way ( in this career which is supposed to be so much fun and so happy ) who go through the journey to reach the other side where life goes on. To smile and laugh, sing and dance, make more babies and dare to take a chance on loving again. I have thought much more than once that life and love are what we all strive for but what we seldom admit must be accompanied by the inherent loss and grief the other side of the coin brings along with the joy. It is an inspiration to know the courage and tenacity that these people develop and display as life goes on, the way it's supposed to. Thanks for teaching me so much about what it means to be a human being.